Connect For Success: Relationship Building


“Connect” is an experiential workshop designed to enhance the quality of the connections people make with their significant others, families, coworkers and friends. Through engaging group exercises, participants become more sharply aware of their Connecting Style, the impact of their style on others, and strategies for connecting across style with those they normally find most challenging.  The workshop also provides strategies for keeping keeping stress and “button pushing” from undermining relationships.  Participants leave with a simple and realistic development plan designed to translate insights into behavior change.

Happiness is inextricably bound to the quality of the connections we form with each other.  All too often, when a relationship gets off track, finding the right course correction is a trial and error proposition at best. Once disconnects become personal, they tend to calcify and take on a life of their own. But as my 30 years as a clinical psychologist and coach have taught me, there are laws that govern the quality of relationships. Changing a relationship does not mean changing who you are or changing the other person. Understanding the impact of your behavior on others based on their Connecting Style can lead you to make small changes in how you interact — changes that feel appreciated and can quickly get a relationship back on track.  This engaging 75 minute workshop will give you the insights, tools and confidence you need to connect, engage and influence those with whom you live and work.


The building blocks of effective connecting:

  1. Communication style self-awareness: You will learn about the four different “Connecting Styles,” identify your own style, and apply these insights to engage, influence and get through to people across the full range of personality styles – including those who you find most difficult.
  2. Awareness of others’ styles and their communications preferences: You will learn how to quickly identify the Connecting Style of others so you can tailor your approach to connect more effectively.
  3. Knowing how to move out of your comfort zone and incorporate new behaviors that complement your existing habits
  4. Keeping stress from causing behavior that can sabotage relationships.
  5. Listening: Listening is the most powerful yet underutilized influencing skill.   We’ll take a look at ways to increase your listening effectiveness.
  6. Understanding and respecting the Six Connecting Needs. The better able you are to support these needs in others, the more effective your connections will them will be.


The workshop can accommodate from 12 to 40 people.  For larger audiences, Dr. Lurie covers similar ground in a motivational presentation.